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Giving and Receiving Requires Balance

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Many of us were taught from an early age to be of service—parents teach children to help with tasks around the home, to walk the dog, babysit the younger ones, and so on. There might be an allowance earned, and in those cases, the child learns to receive a token for services rendered.

Each individual reacts differently to the many forms of giving and receiving. Young children have to be taught to give as receiving comes naturally to them when they are at the stage of being dependent for just about everything. As they grow older, the tables turn and they typically are reinforced with the importance of giving in the forms of helping, serving or gifting.

Giving is upheld as positive behavior, part of altruism and generosity; however, authentic giving does not expect anything in return. It comes from a place of abundance and joy, of having more than enough to share. Receiving takes a back seat and this may result in the learned behavior of too much giving. When there is a feeling of debt, the imbalance of not receiving enough occurs. That is why it is equally important to learn to receive with grace, gratitude and true acceptance—that is, to receive without guilt and the feeling of having to repay the giver.

One way to rectify an imbalance between giving and receiving is the concept of paying it forward. You can’t always reciprocate equally with someone who is able to give you more than you have, but there is bound to be a time when you can be the giver to someone who has less. You are simply contributing to the cycle of kindness and the spirit of sharing.

There is another aspect of gracious receiving that is often overlooked. Not being able to receive robs the giver of the pleasure you yourself receive when you are the one doing the giving! And, it makes the giver feel misunderstood and unappreciated. Gracious receiving is a way of allowing others to show how much they care and to experience your own self-worth.

Just as “it takes two to tango,” it takes two to give and receive. Creating a balance between the two requires conscious intention, but it’s well worth effort. If you don’t feel joyful when giving, it’s a sign you’re depleted and imbalanced. You can consciously give yourself self-care to replenish your own tank and do some receiving, which can take the form of asking and accepting help!

Think of giving and receiving in this way: it can be as simple as words of encouragement, such as “I know you can do it.” “I believe in you.” “Let me give you a hand with that.” The recipient graciously accepts with “thank you!” We can make balanced giving and receiving a part of our total wellness lifestyle!

‘Tis the season of gifting, and if you want to present the ones you care about with gifts inspired by nature, Nikken invites you to take a look at the 2023 Gift Guide. The special offers extend through the end of the year.

Get Ready for the Festive Season

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What is important to you during the holiday season? Is it getting together with family? Is it about exchanging gifts? Are you more of a nurturer or a recipient? Before the holidays get under way, decide what is most meaningful to you to make the season special and less chaotic, especially if travel is involved. A lot depends on solid planning, so be sure to get a head start. Make lists. Create a budget and stick to it as much as possible. Shop early. Delegate when possible. If entertaining, stock up on essentials like toilet paper and napkins. Try to be prepared and if things don’t turn out exactly as you planned, just roll with it and enjoy yourself anyway!

The month of December appears to be the festive season for many cultures. Here are just a few of the special days that are celebrated:

• December 7 through December 15: Hanukkah is central to the Jewish Festival of Lights.

The menorah is lit to celebrate the Maccabees’ triumph over the Assyrian armies and the miracle of a single day’s oil lasting for eight nights. Gifts are exchanged and games are played.

• December 8: Bodhi Day commemorates the day Gautama Buddha attained enlightenment. It is a day Buddhists celebrate through meditation.

• December 12: The Feast Day of Our Lady of Guadalupe is celebrated by millions of pilgrims who visit the Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe. A festival marks the the sightings of the Virgin Mary.

• December 21 through January 1: Yule is the celebration of the winter solstice, the shortest or darkest day of the year. Yule marks the re-emergence of the sun and the days beginning to grow longer again. The Yule celebration originated in Scandinavia as a Norse festival.

• December 23: A relatively “new” holiday is Festivus. For those who are anti-commercialism and the materialism that comes with it, Festivus is a quieter anti-celebration of the season with like-minded friends and family members.

• December 25: Christmas commemorates the birth of Jesus Christ, but people of all types of faiths now celebrate Christmas as a time to exchange gifts and experience the fairy tale of Santa Claus.

• December 26 through January 1: Kwanzaa is a cultural holiday honoring African-American heritage. It focuses on unity, self-determination, collective responsibility, cooperative economics, purpose, creativity and faith. Its name comes from the Swahili phrase “matunda ya kwanza,” which translates to “first fruits.” 

Whatever you celebrate during the festive season, remember that everyone appreciates a gift from the heart. Nikken invites you to take a look at the 2023 Gift Guide with special offers that extend through the end of the year.

Source: https://time.com/6242283/december-global-holidays-christmas-hanukkah-yule/

How Do You Show Gratitude?

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Cultural differences account for the many ways in how people show gratitude. Professor Jonathan Tudge of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro is considered an expert on the subject. He and his colleagues have published a series of studies showing how children develop a sense of gratitude in seven culturally diverse countries.

The children were aged seven to 14 and answered in three categories of gratitude: verbal  which is spoken, concrete which offers a token gift, and connective which is relational. Children in China and South Korean tended to favor connective gratitude. Those in the U.S. leaned toward concrete gratitude, and Guatemalan kids were partial to verbal gratitude.1 According to Professor Tudge, connective gratitude which cultivates the development of a relationship, goes beyond words or gifts of thanks. He calls it the most authentic form of gratitude.

Cultural values, parenting practices and education may each play a role. Autonomous (individualist) cultures such as that of North America, teach children to be more independent and self-directed. Heteronomous (collectivist) cultures such as that of Asia teach duty and obedience to elders as well as honoring others. This could account for why Americans tend toward verbal and concrete gratitude while Asians focus on connectivity and developing relationships rather than valuing individuality and separateness. Giving and receiving help is an expected part of daily life for members of collectivist cultures rather than an uplifting surprise for those from individualist cultures.2

Who you choose to show gratitude to also may depend on cultural influences. For example, Southeast Indians were more likely to show appreciation to people outside of their families—the type of people they might feel obligated to repay. This sense of indebtedness is found much less in autonomous cultures. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the Inuit do not require an expression of gratitude after receiving meat from a hunt.

According to Professor Tudge, gratitude is ultimately a skill that strengthens relationships and arises when we pay more attention to the gifts our connections bring us. He says that means thinking about gratitude less like a good feeling to boost happiness and more like paying it forward with kindness, making it a way of life and being a good human being.3

During this season of Thanksgiving, consider who you want to connect with more deeply. And if you want to show concrete gratitude, Nikken invites you to take a look at the 2023 Gift Guide with special offers that extend through the end of the year.

1,2, 3 https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_cultural_differences_shape_your_gratitude