Tackling Stress and Tension with Self-Care

Stress is your brain and body’s physical and psychological response to external demands or pressures, while tension is the accumulated physical or mental tightness and strain that results from that stress. Simply put, stress is the pressure you experience, and tension is how your body holds onto it.1

While stress is a reaction to a current external demand and anxiety is often characterized by worry about future threats, tension is best understood as the “accumulated residue” of ongoing stress and anxiety. It is a state of sustained mental and physical strain that builds up over time – often so gradually that a person may not notice it until it’s a daily discomfort or focus.2

Mental tension is defined as an intense state of strain resulting from a perceived inability to cope with demands – one that may activate and sustains the body’s stress response systems over time. Physically, it manifests as chronic muscle tightness (particularly in the shoulders, neck, and jaw), headaches, difficulty relaxing, and mental fatigue that may persist despite routine rest.3

Tension can result from the accumulated strain from months of demanding work – showing up as tight shoulders that cannot seem to loosen, mental exhaustion that sleep does not resolve, and difficulty switching off when not working. Managing tension often requires both physical and psychological release. 

Mentally, managing tension involves setting clear work-life boundaries, ensuring genuine recovery periods, and reducing the chronic load of demands from both daily living and constantly working. There are simple ways to help counter the instinctive fight-or-flight state that accompanies stress, anxiety and tension.

You can help ease tension with self-awareness and develop some easy daily habits:

• Progressive muscle relaxation is done by squeezing and releasing muscle groups.

• Mindful breathing involves inhaling deeply for four seconds and exhaling for six.

• Gentle stretching can help ease often-tight areas. Be mindful of how your body feels as you stretch. Try to do 10 minutes of stretching at a time and create a rhythmic energy flow.

• Practice self-massage, especially the base of the skull and neck where tension can build from how you sit and stand.4 Try the Kenko MagDuo® to “roll your way to relaxation.” It’s portable, so you can take it anywhere and use it on any part of the body you choose.

• Warm baths can help you unwind and relax the entire body.

• A splash of cold water on the face during work breaks can help you feel refreshed.

• Unplug from screens. Take dedicated breaks from news and social media to avoid constant stressors and information overload.5

• Create a sleep schedule and stick to it. Sleep and rise at the same times—your circadian rhythm plays an important role in your daily routine. Restful sleep at night helps create productive days.

• Spend time in nature. Even a brief walk can help clear your mind.

• Consciously set limits for yourself. In other words, give yourself space and permission to relax and replenish. Sometimes doing less is more beneficial than doing more.6

• Refuel before you feel very thirsty or hungry. Thirst and hunger can add to tension, stress and anxiety. Eating and drinking healthy foods and pure water can help you maintain your energy and overall sense of well-being.

Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. You can only help take care of others when you are in good shape yourself! It’s a critical part of empowered living.

1,2,3 https://psychology.town/industrial-organisational/stress-anxiety-tension-differences-workplace/

4,5 https://www.cdc.gov/mental-health/living-with/index.html

6 https://www.amherst.edu/campuslife/health-safety-wellness/counseling/wellness/self-care-and-stress-reduction/de-stress

Overloaded? De-Stress From a Fast-Paced, Tech-Heavy Life

In general, there are two sources of stress: one is from daily living and the other is from major life events. The Lazarus-Folkman scale gives examples of daily living stresses such as lack of time, too many things to do, financial obligations, work-related problems, restless sleep, concern with appearances and aging, and even forgetfulness and misplacing or losing items.

On the other hand, the Holmes-Rahe scale gives examples of major life events that cause stress. These include death in the family, divorce, personal injury or illness, pregnancy, marriage, loss of job due to layoffs or retirement and a major change to financial status.

The tech-reliant lifestyle that many people live is both a source of relief as well as of stress. Technology enables people to work from home—this became prevalent during the pandemic and has become a permanent status for a substantial part of the global population. Working from home was and remains a boon to those who have the dual roles of bread-earner and primary childcare or eldercare person.

Without technology, you would not be able to stay connected to friends and family who live in other parts of the world on a virtually real-time basis. Gone are the days of relying solely on snail mail to receive news from loved ones.

So why does technology cause stress? Technology itself does not cause stress, but your approach and use of it, does. When you become slaves to your phones and electronic devices, you become creatures of habit who are addicted to receiving the latest news about global politics, movie idols, local gossip, the ever-changing trends and whatever is “hot” on social media. Consciously or subconsciously, these topics can affect self-esteem, self-image and self-care as you constantly compare yourselves against what is “out there.”

Many of the daily living stresses and major life events are beyond your control; however, you can take charge of how you approach technology in your lives. In other words, you can set healthy boundaries for yourselves. Here are a few things you can do to control how you use technology in your life:

  • Set realistic and sustainable limits on device use. Conduct an audit on what you spend your time on with your devices. For example, instead of scrolling through the news after work, try getting dinner prep out of the way first.1
  • Commit to being device-free for a period of time each week. Instead, go offline and connect with friends in real life.2
  • Turn off alerts so that you’re not at the mercy of constant pinging from emails, messages, and updates on who’s doing what on socials.3
  • Set limits to your time on social media.4 Just as parents set limits on the amount of screen time their kids are allowed, you need to do so for yourselves!

To combat stress overall, center yourselves and take a break from technology. Replace scrolling on devices with more physical activities, such as taking daily walks or choosing an exercise you like and can stick to, committing to eating healthy foods and making your own food. Research from the National Library of Science in 2022 shows that people who follow a diet high in processed foods and added sugars are more likely to experience higher perceived stress levels.5

Self-care means setting boundaries not only for yourselves but for others. Say “no” when necessary and be one with nature as often as possible. Be well by sleeping well, eating well and hydrating well. You still have a couple of days to take advantage of 20% off your purchase of a PiMag Waterfall®, one easy way to stay hydrated with alkaline “living water.”

1, 2, 3, 4 https://theskillcollective.com/blog/modern-life-causes-stress

5 https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/16-ways-relieve-stress-anxiety#eat-a-balanced-diet

5 https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/16-ways-relieve-stress-anxiety#eat-a-balanced-diet